Social Skills

Raising an autistic child is a little different than raising a neurotypical. For instance, the other day The Queen and I had this exchange:

Me: Squiggle is getting really good at talking to strangers.

The Queen: I know, isn’t it great?

And today there was this:

Me: How was the library?

The Queen: Okay, but there was little boy about Squiggles age playing with the puzzles. And when Squiggle tried to play with him, and the boy said “No, go away” and Squiggle cried.

Me: My son got his feelings hurt and cried in public? Yes! High five!!

In other words, we work hard to inculcate in Squiggle the same behaviors and emotional responses that the mass media seems determined to eradicate from everyone else.

16 thoughts on “Social Skills

  1. our 6 yr old was diagnosed with PPD-NOS and I too find myself cheering his breakdowns at times because they are a show of ‘normalcy’. he so often seems apathetic to other people’s opinions, that when he seems to register some reaction (good or bad) i look at that as a good sign.

  2. “inculcate”? wow…nice word. I’m going to look that one up.

    I remember my husband and I being really thrilled when our developmentally disabled son started having temper tantrums. Oh yay! A tantrum! An age appropriate behavior! Let’s just say his tantrums didn’t elicit the desired response.

  3. We had our accreditation the other day and the head of the team commended us on how our kids all looked him in the eye. It seems normal to me, but I guess it is odd for kids living on the autism spectrum!

  4. I feel you! I have done high-5’s for lying before. yippee! you’re showing development of theory of mind!

  5. I feel you! I have done high-5’s for lying before. yippee! you’re showing development of theory of mind!

  6. I routinely give praise when our 2 year-old makes prank calls to the fire department… but it really doesn’t have anything to do with neurological development.

    It is just howlingly funny.

  7. Reminds me of a scene in Paul Collins’s Not Even Wrong where he bumps into his autistic son, being tended by a nanny, in the grocery store. When Collins leaves, the boy starts crying inconsolably, a pleasant surprise since he’s never cared before where his parents are.

  8. Didn’t realize Squiggle is autistic – and I’m not THAT new of a reader!

    I just finished reading “The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night” (?) – what good insight into the mind of an autistic child! Theoretically, of course.

    Congrats on hurt feelings!

  9. Yeti Mom: Thanks so much. It is a GREAT story. My husband recently got in the mail some info on autisim (connected to his job) that was really interesting to me.

    My son is almost 2 years and has NO WORDS – but is definitely not autistic. It was nice to eliminate such a big issue – especially that one.

    Squiggle seems high-functioning indeed (per Oct. 10th post)- esp. if he sat on Santa’s lap! And sleeps at someone else’s house? Congrats on helping/teaching him as you do. And loving him so much it’s painful is just an added bonus.

  10. Lyz, the Yeti was well past two years old when he started to talk. It was like he was saving all his words and then they just came out in paragraphs! After that we could never shut him up. A little known fact is that he had to take speech therapy in elementary school for talking too fast. True.

  11. “Yeah, I had to ban my Mom’s IP.” Definitely goes onto the list of things that boggle me when I seethem since they’re still so new that we couldn’t have fathomed that sentence 20 years ago . . . .

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